The 3 Top Benefits of Complaining

A lousy boss, a crummy teacher, an annoying family member, a frustrating day, hot weather, cold weather, rainy weather, dry weather, a barking dog, a smelly dog, rabbits eating the landscaping, a speeding ticket, rude drivers, noisy neighbors, and an otherwise overall crappy day. The list of reasons to complain is endless!

There really are so many fantastic reasons to complain that you really can’t get it all in in one day if you want to cover everything.

The good news is there are 3 benefits to all of your complaining.

I’m not sure anything like this has been written before so you will want to pay close attention and read on to justify your complaining.

Drum roll please:

The 3 Top Benefits of Complaining


1. Everyone loves a complainer.

Think about the last time you scoured the halls at work for someone you knew would just complain about everything. Remember how you felt when you could just sit there and listen to them go on and on and on? You no doubt left feeling encouraged and uplifted.


2. Complaining helps you come up with solutions.

Complaining always focuses on what you can do about a situation. It really helps you to separate your emotions from a situation so you can think clearly about your options for making your situation better. I know that when I need a solution to a problem, I gather together a group of complainers to hash out viable options that will make everyone even more miserable than they already are.

3. Complaining is good for your health.

Complaining allows one to enter into a state of complete peace and relaxation. Your heart rate goes down, your blood pressure reaches an all time low, and you have an overwhelming sense of calm. There’s nothing quite like a good complaining session to help one to feel balanced and centered. It brings you closer to God.


Wait… what??

So you’re telling me there really aren’t any benefits to complaining?

So why we do it?


Sometimes we need to just vent.

True, there are times when venting does help one to blow off some steam but it’s tricky.

You can’t blow off steam to anyone and everyone.

You need a trusted confidant and preferably someone you don’t work with (if it’s work you’re ranting about.) The best option is one who has proven trustworthy time and again who isn’t directly connected to the situation you’re ranting about. The reason is: what you say in a heated moment will get back to whomever it is you’re complaining about. It just will. Period. And then you will have a whole other set of problems. So find someone not connected to the problem at hand.

What to do instead of complaining

1. Accept what is.

There are many things in life that are just the way they are.  All the complaining in the world will not change some things. The sooner you accept, the sooner you can move on.

It is what it is.

~ My sister Karen

2. Change your perspective.

The only control you have is over yourself. You can’t control people. You can’t control the weather. You can’t control every situation. You can’t ultimately control anything long term except yourself.

Easier said than done one way to change your perspective is to keep a gratitude journal. In the journal write what is good about the situation or the person you’re unhappy about. Force yourself to do this exercise daily and write at least 10 things down. This will stretch you and change your situation in ways you never thought possible. Try it – I’ll buy you coffee if you do.

3. Look for solutions.

Stop playing victim. It’s boring. Instead of thinking about what’s wrong, think about what’s right. Instead of thinking about what can’t be done, think about what can be done. If you’re not willing to do anything to make the situation better, then you get what you get and stop throwing a fit. It’s your life. It’s up to you to make it what you want it to be.

We often find what we’re looking for so look for solutions not problems.

To recap in case you missed the subtlety:

~ No one likes a complainer.

~ Complaining doesn’t change anything for the better.

~ Complaining is very bad for your health.

What do you feel like complaining about today? Try to do the opposite and find what’s good and do something that will actually change either you or your situation.

Copyright © 2017 Kaylene Mathews. All rights reserved.



About Kaylene

Kaylene Mathews, MBA, equips and empowers individuals and groups to gain the clarity they need to achieve their personal and professional best through keynotes, coaching and training services. She authors a weekly blog, and a monthly newsletter. She is currently working on her second book. Her first book is available on Amazon.


  • Terri Klass says:

    Wonderful post, Kaylene! It is so true that complaining gets us nowhere and can often escalate an already overwhelming situation. I love your tips and strategies and will just add that welcoming others with different viewpoints can really cultivate innovation and unique outcomes.

    Thanks Kaylene!